The experience of being abused and/or verbally degraded by partners is usually exhausting and emotionally draining. The process of building a new life for yourself takes much courage and incredible energy.
To conserve my emotional energy and resources and to avoid hard emotional times I can do some of the following.
A. If I feel down and ready to return to a potentially abusive situation, I can (call a friend, relative or crisis line) for support ________________________________________________.
B. When I have to communicate with my partner in person or by telephone, I will state that I am recording our conversation and then do just that. I will also arrange to have a trusted friend or close adult relative present during those meetings/telephone calls, or make arrangements for all communications to go through a lawyer or other third party ________________________________________________.
C. I will use "I can" statements with myself and with others.
D. I can tell myself, "I'm in charge of my life and confident in my ability to make decisions" when I feel others are trying to control or abuse me.
E. I can read (poetry, self-help resources) to help me feel stronger.
F. I can call (friends, family, other support people) ____________________________________________ to support me.
G. Other things I can do to help me feel stronger in both body and mind are (continuing education, self defense courses, etc) ________________________________________________.
H. I can attend workshops and support groups offered through community resource centers, shelters for abused victims or the local health unit ____________________________ to gain support and strengthen my relationships with people.
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