Victims cannot always avoid violent incidents. In order to increase safety, abuse victims may develop a variety of plans.
Some or all of the following plans are to be considered:
A. If I decide to leave I will ________________________________________________
(Practice how to get out safely. For example, what doors, windows, elevators, stairwells, or fire escape will you use?)
B. I can keep my purse/wallet/identification, car keys, and emergency cash ready and put them in (place)_________________________________________ in order to leave quickly.
C. I can tell (list two trusted friends/neighbors and their phone numbers.)
______________________________________________ about the violence and request they call the police if they hear suspicious noises coming from my house or if they cannot locate me.
D. I will use ____________________ as my code word with my friends/relatives so they can get help.
E. If I have to leave my home, I will go to ____________________________________ (Decide this even if you don’t think there will be another violent incident.) If I cannot go to the above location, then I can go to ______________________________________________.
F. I can also teach some of these plans to my children.
G. When I expect my partner and I are going to have an argument, I will try to move to a space that is lowest risk such as ________________________________________. (Remember to avoid the bathroom, kitchen, garage, rooms containing items that can be used as weapons and rooms without access to the outside.)
H. I will use my judgment and intuition. If the situation is very serious, I should consider doing what I know would calm my partner down. I must remember that I have to protect the children and myself.
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